Your Ticket to Success - Proverbs 1:1-6, 1:7; 2:4-8; 3:5-6, 11-12 - June 1, 2008

Sunday School Lesson – Your Ticket to Real Success – June 1, 2008

This begins a new series of study titled “Extraordinary Wisdom for Everyday Living.” All of our scripture in this series is taken from Proverbs.

The majority of Proverbs was written by King Solomon, King David’s son. King Solomon’s mother was Bathsheba. After Solomon was made King of Israel, GOD appeared to him in a dream. (1 Kings 3:9-11) GOD told him “Ask for whatever you want ME to give you.” This is a broad question being asked by GOD WHO can provide whatever Solomon asked. Solomon’s father, David, had taught Solomon about GOD and Solomon knew what GOD was capable of providing. Solomon had seen the hand of GOD working in his father’s life. Solomon had seen the forgiveness of GOD, through the fact that GOD allowed him, a product of David and Bathsheba, to become king.

Solomon asked GOD for a discerning heart to govern HIS people and to distinguish between right and wrong. This pleased GOD. Since Solomon did not ask GOD for long life or wealth nor death for his enemies, GOD granted him a wise and discerning heart, wealth, honor, long life (Provided he walked in GOD’S ways, obeyed HIS statutes and commands as David his father did.)

Here is a quick overview of the month of June:
June 1 – GOD wants HIS children to succeed. But GOD’S definition of success is different from the world’s definition of success.
June 8 – Identifying attitudes and actions that can damage a believer. GOD wants believers to choose to pursue wise attitudes and actions.
June 15 – discovering ways to strengthen family life and once discovered take action to implement ways to strengthen the family.
June 22 – Our speech is powerful and can either be helpful or hurtful.
June 29 – Explore Biblical principles about earning and using our resources (money).

Solomon wrote Proverbs during his early reign as king, about 970 B.C., when a person’s relationship with GOD was more works oriented. A believer was doing or working to maintain their relationship with GOD. They would have to go to the temple to have the priest make a sacrifice for their sins. It was difficult for the believer to internalize the presence of GOD in their lives. GOD was always outside of them in some other place like the temple.

Psalms was David expressing his heart as he tried to internalize GOD and maintain their relationship. Proverbs was Solomon instructing others on how to live and have a relationship with others but from the point that the person was to seek GOD first. Proverbs was the everyday application of the right things to do if a person wanted to succeed. Both a believer or non-believer could benefit from proverbs but a believer could benefit more because GOD would reveal truth to them.

We can see how right, consistent living can result in gaining wealth because people like to do business with or be friends with people who practice what they preach.
After CHRIST came to earth, lived a sinless life, gave HIS life for the sins of mankind, died, was resurrected and ascended into heaven to sit at the right-hand of the FATHER, HE sent the HOLY SPIRIT to earth to indwell every believer. Today believers are permanently free of sin, past, present and future and have been made righteous at the moment they receive CHRIST. They receive eternal life, become children of GOD and are indwelled by the HOLY SPIRIT. THE HOLY SPIRIT empowers each believer daily and assures every believer that he or she is GOD’S child (Romans 8:16).

So how can believers, today, profit from Proverbs? Simply, living for GOD still takes a decision. Who rules our lives on a daily basis, GOD or our flesh (our will be done or GOD’S will be done)? We, as believers, live in the world and we have relationships with people every day. Often we have to be reminded how best to respond in life’s situations. Proverbs gives us instructions and guidance in wisdom as we build our relationship with GOD through CHRIST. Believers must keep in mind that GOD’S goal for us is to be made in the image of HIS SON, JESUS.

Living for GOD becomes a frustrating chore when we are works oriented. However, when our relationship to GOD comes to the point that we allow HIM to rule our lives, living for HIM becomes natural.

Proverbs are words of wisdom based upon experience and are applicable in life’s situations. Today, believers seek the spiritual experiences of other believers and attempt to apply their experience to their lives. GOD will allow us to do that because HE will reveal to us that HE is not in the cookie cutter spiritual business. We can learn from others and be challenged by others but our experiences with GOD are special and unique. We must seek our own personal relationship with HIM. HE will open the windows of heaven and shower us with blessings that cannot be put into words.

Let’s read Proverbs 1:1-6: Learn from Scripture

1 The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: 2 For gaining wisdom and being instructed; for understanding insightful sayings; 3 for receiving wise instruction [in]* The bracketed text has been added for clarity. righteousness, justice, and integrity;[1] Pr 2:9 4 for teaching shrewdness to the inexperienced,[2] Or simple, or gullible knowledge and discretion to a young man— 5 a wise man will listen and increase his learning,[3] Pr 9:9; 16:21,23 and a discerning man will obtain guidance— 6 for understanding a proverb or a parable,[4] Or an enigma the words of the wise, and their riddles.[5] Hab 2:6

Solomon gives the purpose of Proverbs in verses 1-6.

Often we interpret knowledge as “wisdom” but here we need to think of wisdom as being beyond the mere knowledge of this world. I heard a pastor say years ago that wisdom is knowledge applied to GOD ‘S plan.

Solomon attempts to “expose” others to words of wisdom. I used the word “expose” because all a teacher, preacher or wise person can do is present and expose a person. The words have to be heard, understood and internalized before they become wisdom to the hearer. The purpose of most teachers is to expose others to knowledge which can be internalized, put into perspective by GOD and result in wisdom. The Book of James tells us that believers can ask for wisdom (James 1:5). Here is where many believers get the notion of instant wisdom. Most of us ask for wisdom and expect to be showered with Holy Dust from GOD and be endowed with wisdom. It can work that way but most often GOD works in many other ways. Some are not comfortable but get the job done. Often believers have to look back to see that the hand of GOD was leading and teaching them through some difficult times.

Often we interpret cleverness as being wise. Like the story of the two (2) young men who had heard of a wise man that lived in their area. They decided to go to the wise man’s home. One of the young men would take a live bird and hold it behind his back. He would ask the wise man whether or not the bird was alive or dead. If the wise man said the bird was alive he would kill the bird. If he said the bird was dead he would show him that the bird was alive. The young men approached the wise man and one asked him their question, hoping to trap him. But the wise man said, “Whatever you choose my son.”

Solomon states that Proverbs were written for gaining wisdom. The word “gaining” means to know. It is understanding and internalizing what one has heard or read.
“And being instructed” can mean “discipline” or “correction”. GOD’S discipline or correction can be gentle or severe with the intent of the circumstances working for good in HIS children. Most of us think of discipline in a negative way. GOD can discipline HIS children harshly but most often it is gentle. What we need, HE knows. We have to trust HIM. Remember GOD is loving, kind and gentle but HE is also all powerful.

I know I have prayed for wisdom and it seemed that everything I would do was the opposite of what I should be doing. I prayed again and asked the LORD, why had things gone wrong? The answer was, “Now you know what not to do and that is gaining wisdom.” Now that is not what I expected from GOD but HIS ways are not our ways. HE chooses how best to teach us so we will learn.

Reading words or listening does not mean we have learned. HE knows our hearts and HE knows when learning has been transformed into understanding. The next step is to internalize and put into action what we learn and comprehend as appropriate.

The question is, “Can wisdom be taught?” This is a Yes/No answer. True wisdom comes from GOD and when sought, HE reveals it, based upon our relationship to HIM and ability to comprehend it. Our physical and spiritual growth and maturity are keys to our ability to be taught wisdom along with our relationship to GOD.

The next words go together “understanding” and “insightful.” These words carry the idea of “discerning” or “distinguishing” one idea or thought from another.

Solomon used the word “receiving.” It means to be open to taking “wise instruction.” I have observed that many people just plain do not listen. They are often more interested in presenting their views than listening to what someone else has to say. This goes back to our lesson on communication.

Receiving wise instruction in righteousness - Righteousness refers to the character of a person and is a testimony that the person is in right standing with GOD.

Next is “Justice.” Justice is associated with the righteousness of a believer. It means to judge issues or matters fairly.

Next is “integrity.” Integrity means to “to be straight” and to be obedient to GOD as HE guides a believer through life.

Righteousness, justice and integrity are three (3) characteristics in a person serving HIM that define success.

Proverbs are good for teaching the inexperienced in shrewdness. Inexperienced means those who have not encountered life’s experiences in order to learn from them. When we think of shrewdness, we generally think of something underhanded or deceptive. But in this instance it means carefully thinking and weighing matters in order to make a decision. The inexperienced often look at matters superficially. Solomon wanted people to look more carefully and weigh matters more carefully before they made a decision. Reading Proverbs had the potential for giving those inexperienced with life situations a heads up on making good decisions.

Those more experienced with life can still profit from Proverbs because they impart knowledge and discretion. Knowledge as used here carries the idea of understanding and discretion carries the idea of carefully considering ones choices. Choices can be good or bad. Solomon’s desire is that young people would choose wisely and avoid things they may regret in the future when they become more mature.

Verses 5 and 6 put the finishing touch on defining how a wise person acts – They listen, seek to learn, understand what they learn and obtain guidance. Seek understanding of proverbs, parables or riddles because in doing so it will give a person a depth of understanding. It also shows that a person is not stiffed necked but is eager to make sound decisions and that is wisdom.

Let’s read Proverbs 1:7; 2:4-8: Revere the LORD

7 The • fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge;[6] Pr 9:10; 15:33; Jb 28:28 fools despise wisdom and instruction.[7] This verse states the theme of Pr. [8] Eph 5:17
4 if you seek it like silver and search for it like hidden treasure, 5 then you will understand the • fear of the Lord and discover the knowledge of God. 6 For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding. 7 He stores up success[2] Or resourcefulness for the upright; He is a shield for those who live with integrity[3] Pr 10:9; 20:7; 28:18 8 so that He may guard the paths of justice and protect the way of His loyal followers.

The very heart of Proverbs is found in verse 7. The word “fear” is not being afraid of GOD but having absolute reverence and respect for GOD. GOD is our supreme teacher and all wisdom comes from HIM. As HE reveals truth, a person should not become too big for his or her britches. As we learn and understand, it is easy for us to think that this wisdom is coming from us.

The “it” in Proverbs 2:4 is wisdom. Seek wisdom like you would search for things the world considers precious. Search for wisdom like you would for hidden treasure.

The search will lead a person to a deeper relationship with GOD and he or she will discover that GOD is the source of all wisdom and holds the key for understanding and comprehending knowledge. Notice, it is GOD WHO gives wisdom. Wisdom is a gift for those who diligently seek it. By the same token GOD can give wisdom to whoever HE chooses.

GOD gives “success.” Here we have to be careful. We think of “success” in terms of wealthy and power but GOD defines success as knowing HIM and being obedient to HIM. Success to GOD is living a righteous life on a daily basis, walking uprightly and practicing good judgment.

When we serve HIM, HE defends HIS children. HE is our shield. I have seen this during my life.

Let’s read Proverbs 3:5-6: Live by Faith

5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not rely on your own understanding; 6 think about Him in all your ways, and He will guide you on the right paths.[5] Pr 11:5

These are verses I memorized years ago and have found them comforting during some dark times. A pastor many years ago used to say, “You have to practice in the dark what you have learned in the light.” This scripture can be of great comfort during times when you cannot see the next step.

As humans it is our nature to depend upon our own understanding. Trusting in the LORD means having complete faith in the direction HE is leading you. We want to see the path but GOD wants us to let HIM guide us along the path. Those are the times when we have to look only upon HIM and not at the circumstances surrounding us. We are to place our entire confidence in HIM during these times.

Let’s read Proverb’s 3:11-12: Appreciate GOD’S Correction

11 Do not despise the Lord’s instruction, my son, and do not loathe His discipline;[11] Pr 5:11–13; 15:5,31–33 12 for the Lord disciplines the one He loves, just as a father, the son he delights in.[12] Pr 13:24; Jb 5:17–18; Heb 12:5–7

GOD is our FATHER. Solomon used the word “my son” to show that relationship and the relationship GOD wants parents to have with their children. As mentioned earlier, GOD loves and is kind and gentle. HE will discipline HIS children but it is always with love. HE sometimes has to teach us through some difficult circumstances. No one likes to be disciplined but the LORD’S discipline is designed to move us to a higher level of growth, maturity and understanding. When we receive the discipline from the LORD, we know we belong to HIM as a son or daughter.

When we discipline our children, always let them know that you love them.
The key to success is building and maintaining a loving and intimate relationship with GOD through CHRIST. GOD will teach us HIS wisdom. When we really get to know HIM, through the relationship, we will see the world and life as HE sees them. We will be comfortable trusting HIM because HE is the source of wisdom and understanding. HE will reveal truth to us as we grow and mature in HIM. Just as it takes time for us to grow and mature from a baby to an adult, it takes time for us to grow and mature spiritually.

Growth, maturity and trust will come as a natural process of the relationship. Keep in mind that mankind was not made for time but for eternity.

Be Ready To Forgive - Ephesians 4 and Philemon - May 25, 2008

Sunday School Lesson – Be Ready To Forgive – May 25, 2008
This is our final lesson in our series “Unlocking Your Best Relationships.”
We have explored the keys to building and maintaining our relationship with others – Appreciate others – Communicate with others – Be Trustworthy – Be Forgiving.
In any relationship forgiving is often difficult but vital to a relationship. On the heels of forgiveness is trust. When we sin against GOD, the scripture tells us to confess, repent and GOD forgives, cleanses and restores. The word repent means to stop the sin you are committing and do not repeat it.
In a marriage an unfaithful spouse has broken trust. Once trust is broken it is very difficult to rebuild that trust. The offended spouse can forgive but it takes a faithful spouse to rebuild that trust.
In an abusive situation, the abused person can forgive but it means the abuse must end. The offender must prove himself or herself before a relationship is restored. Some situations cannot be restored and should not be restored. It is beyond my thinking to understand why anyone can abuse another person. But it happens every day.
As Christians, we are to forgive as CHRIST has forgiven us. But as a dear friend of mine put it, you can forgive and pray for a person who has offended you but when you pray, keep one eye open. Forgiveness does not mean you park your brain. Addicts, hot heads and abusers who have changed must earn the trust of others.
Our scripture is Ephesians and Philemon, both written by the Apostle Paul. Ephesians deals with Christians taking off their old way of life and putting on their new life in CHRIST. Philemon is an example of a slave running away from his master and Paul urging the master to forgive the slave, who has become a believer, and accepting him back without punishment. The slave is a changed person since becoming a believer.
Let’s read Ephesians 4:22-24:
22 you took off[9] Or Jesus. This means: take off (as a command) your former way of life, the old man that is corrupted by deceitful desires; 23 you are being renewed[10] Or desires; renew (as a command) in the spirit of your minds; 24 you put on[11] Or minds; and put on (as a command) the new man, the one created according to God’s [likeness]* The bracketed text has been added for clarity. [12] Col 3:10 in righteousness and purity of the truth.
The Apostle Paul uses an ordinary routine each person faces every day, taking off your old clothes and putting on new clothes, to illustrate what happens when we become believers in CHRIST.
It is fitting that he used the illustration of taking off our old clothes and putting on clean clothes. Paul is referring to this act as taking off the old life (sinful flesh) and putting on the new life in CHRIST (Born-again Spirit). This is salvation and salvation is an once-in-a-lifetime act. Paul used the words “being renewed in the spirit of your minds.” Once we become believers in CHRIST by taking off the old person and putting on the new, it is the beginning of the process called sanctification. Sanctification is the daily walk and the daily process of decision making; just plain living in the world. Do we allow the flesh to rule or the spirit? The battle ground is our mind, the seat for decision making. Often the flesh appeals to our minds to get us to decide in favor of the flesh getting what it wants. But we must keep in mind the consequences of yielding to the dictates of the flesh. Do we allow our born-again spirit to govern our mind?
The new person is restored to the original state GOD had intended for mankind. Righteousness and purity of truth come with being restored to the state GOD had intended for mankind before the original sin. Paul tells us in 2 Corinthians 5:21 at the moment of salvation, every believer becomes the righteousness of GOD because CHRIST gave HIS life to pay the penalty for sin. The one thing every person has to do is to accept the fact that CHRIST died for him or her and ask HIM to forgive him or her for his or her sin and ask CHRIST to come into his or her life.
2 Corinthians 5:21:
21 He made the One who did not know sin to be sin for us, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
Let’s read Ephesians 4: 25-32:
25 Since you put away lying, Speak the truth, each one to his neighbor,[13] Zch 8:16 because we are members of one another. 26 Be angry and do not sin.[14] Jms 1:19–20 [15] Ps 4:4 Don’t let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and don’t give the Devil an opportunity. 28 The thief must no longer steal. Instead, he must do honest work with his own hands, so that he has something to share with anyone in need. 29 No rotten talk should come from your mouth, but only what is good for the building up of someone in need,[16] Lit for the building up of the need in order to give grace to those who hear. 30 And don’t grieve God’s Holy Spirit, who sealed you[17] Or Spirit, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 All bitterness, anger and wrath, insult and slander must be removed from you, along with all wickedness. 32 And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you[18] Other mss read us in Christ.
The Apostle Paul in essence is saying, since you have now become a born-again believer, you need to act like it in your everyday life. Be honest in your dealing with others. Show others that your new life in CHRIST is real and CHRIST makes a difference in you. It will encourage others to want what you have.
Paul reveals a progression of positive change in the new believer’s life. The thief used to steal; now the thief works with his or her hands to earn an honest living, and then as he or she grows and matures in CHRIST, he or she begins to share what is honestly earned with others. These steps show that the person has taken off his or her old life, put on his or her new life and his or her mind is being renewed as he or she grows and matures in CHRIST.
Be a person with a good reputation. You can be angry but do not sin. This sounds odd, what does he mean? A believer can get angry about the things that make GOD angry. A person’s motive and purpose can define whether or not the anger is righteous or sinful.
GOD forbids anger that is vindictive, resulting from jealousy, resentment, hatred or malice. If a believer steps over the line and is angry for the wrong reason, then he or she needs to confess it and settle it before the sun goes down. Simply, if you don’t settle it quickly, you will likely keep putting it off until you justify what you did or forget it. Setting it right quickly is a positive witness to the other party or parties involved. If the matter is not settled quickly, it gives Satan the opportunity to get a foothold in your life and the life of the person you have offended.
Is apologizing hard? You bet it is.
When Paul uses the word “rotten” talk it means foul or corrupt talk that gives the response like we have when we smell putrid meat.
There is a beautiful verse in 2 Corinthians 2:14-15:
14 But thanks be to God, who always puts us on display[6] Or always leads us in a triumphal procession, or less likely, always causes us to triumph in Christ,[7] Lit in the Christ, or in the Messiah; see 1 Co 15:22; Eph 1:10,12,20; 3:11 and spreads through us in every place the scent of knowing Him. 15 For to God we are the fragrance of Christ among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing. 16 To some we are a scent of death leading to death, but to others, a scent of life leading to life. And who is competent for this?
What a contrast between the smell of a believer who lives daily for CHRIST and a believer who smells like putrid meat.
Believers are to be a sweet fragrance and giving grace to those who need to be built up. Believers are to be obedient, serve GOD and not grieve the HOLY SPIRIT WHO has sealed each believer until the day of redemption.
A believer is saved at the moment he or she asks CHRIST to forgive him or her and for HIM to come into his or her life. A believer is in a constant state of being saved and will be fully redeemed when CHRIST returns to earth for the second time. All believers in HIM will accompany HIM to earth and receive their glorified bodies. The glorified body is like CHRIST’S body. The time between the moment of salvation and the moment of being fully redeemed is sealed and guaranteed by the HOLY SPIRIT. The HOLY SPIRIT indwells every believer assuring him or her that he or she is GOD’S child.
Romans 8:16:
16 The Spirit Himself testifies together with our spirit that we are God’s children,
GOD’S plan of salvation is to return each believer to the original state HE intended for mankind. If you read in Genesis2:15-17:
15 The Lord God took the man and placed him in the garden of Eden to work it and watch over it. 16 And the Lord God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree of the garden,[16] Gn 3:1–2 17 but you must not eat[17] Lit eat from it from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for on the day you eat from it, you will certainly die.”[18] Gn 3:5
GOD gave man permission to eat from ANY TREE in the garden except the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. In Genesis 3:22-24:
22 The Lord God said, “Since man has become like one of Us, knowing good and evil, he must not reach out, and also take from the tree of life, and eat, and live forever.”[17] Rv 2:7 23 So the Lord God sent him away from the garden of Eden to work the ground from which he was taken. 24 He drove man out, and east of the garden of Eden He stationed • cherubim with a flaming, whirling sword to guard the way to the tree of life
The tree of life was in the garden and man had GOD’S permission to eat its fruit and live forever. However when man sinned, GOD kept man from eating from the tree of life because mankind would live eternally in a fallen state of unrighteousness. GOD intended for mankind to live forever but in a state of righteousness and fellowship with HIM. GOD did not make mankind like a robot but HE gave mankind the freedom to choose. Man chose to disobey GOD, which is called sin. Sin separated mankind from GOD. GOD wanted to restore that broken relationship. Therefore, HE allowed HIS ONLY SON to come to earth, live as a human and be subject to sinning Himself. CHRIST willingly and freely gave HIS life to pay the penalty for the original sin, death. CHRIST’S death on the cross paid the sin debt. However, GOD did not stop with satisfying the sin debt. HE resurrected CHRIST to prove that CHRIST was the sinless lamb WHO paid the sin debt. CHRIST is the first person to receive HIS glorified body. The resurrection is the absolute proof that all believers will also be resurrected and will receive their glorified bodies, which are like CHRIST’S glorified body.
CHRIST is the tree of life. Since all have sinned, every human is dead because of the original sin. To be restored to life, we must be born-again. It is impossible for us to be born-again physically but we must be born-again spiritually. In CHRIST, we are born-again into the original state GOD intended us to be which is righteous. As Adam and Eve could walk with GOD in the garden before they sinned, we as born-again believers can walk with GOD and fellowship with HIM as HE originally intended. CHRIST in us makes us a Christian and because HE is the tree of life, HE gives us eternal life through HIM.
Paul says since believers have the HOLY SPIRIT in them, they must be cleansed of all bitterness, anger, wrath, insult, slander and wickedness. This is sanctification but in order for sanctification to do its work believers must yield their will to GOD.
The working of CHRIST in the believer will produce the fruit of the spirit identified in Galatians 5:22-26:
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith,[5] Or faithfulness 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 If we live by the Spirit, we must also follow the Spirit. 26 We must not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Believers are to forgive as CHRIST has forgiven them. The word used for forgiveness carries the concept of grace. Grace is unmerited favor. When GOD forgives, HE does so with grace.
Let’s read Philemon 8-18:
8 For this reason, although I have great boldness in Christ to command you to do what is right, 9 I appeal, instead, on the basis of love. I, Paul, as an elderly man[4] Or an ambassador and now also as a prisoner of Christ Jesus, 10 appeal to you for my child, whom I fathered[5] Referring to the fact that Paul led him to Christ; see 1 Co 4:15 while in chains—Onesimus.[6] The name Onesimus in Gk means “useful.” 11 Once he was useless to you, but now he is useful to both you and me. 12 I am sending him—a part of myself[7] Lit him—that is, my inward parts —back to you.[8] Other mss read him back. Receive him as a part of myself. 13 I wanted to keep him with me, so that in my imprisonment for the gospel he might serve me in your place. 14 But I didn’t want to do anything without your consent, so that your good deed might not be out of obligation, but of your own free will. 15 For perhaps this is why he was separated [from you]* The bracketed text has been added for clarity. for a brief time, so that you might get him back permanently, 16 no longer as a slave, but more than a slave—as a dearly loved brother. This is especially so to me, but even more to you, both in the flesh and in the Lord.[9] Both physically and spiritually 17 So if you consider me a partner, accept him as you would me. 18 And if he has wronged you in any way, or owes you anything, charge that to my account.
Paul is writing to Philemon who is a wealthy member of the church at Colossae that met in his house. Evidence of his wealth is in the fact he at least owned one (1) slave. Onesimus ran away from his owner and apparently took something of value. Onesimus ended up in Rome and connected with Paul. Paul led Onesimus to CHRIST. Now Onesimus is more than a slave he is a brother in CHRIST.
This is an example of Paul urging the slave owner, Philemon, to forgive and restore Onesimus (oh NESS ih muhs) not as a slave but as a brother in CHRIST. Paul is willing to pay Philemon for anything Onesimus owes him but he reminds Philemon that he owes a debt to Paul.
In verse 15, Paul asks Philemon to look at Onesimus’s leaving as a good thing. As a result of his leaving, Onesimus was now a Christian and when he returns to you, he will be an even better worker than before he left. Paul wants Philemon to look at this event as positive. He wants Philemon to accept Onesimus back as he would accept Paul.
Paul knows that the punishment for a captured runaway slave could be severe. It is reasonable to conclude Onesimus was very reluctant to return to his master.
When we have been wronged it is hard to forgive. We need to keep in mind that CHRIST forgives us. When we have the proper relationship with CHRIST, the renewing of our minds and HIS presence helps us to forgive. GOD’S goal for HIS children is for us to be made in the image of HIS SON JESUS. While hanging on the cross CHRIST uttered the words “FATHER forgive them for they do not know what they are doing.” CHRIST’S mission was to be obedient and serve HIS FATHER. When we have the proper relationship with CHRIST our natural desire is to obediently serve GOD. Forgiving in our strength is near impossible but in CHRIST all things are possible.
We conclude our series of study on unlocking our best relationships. We have studied some keys that unlock barriers that can hinder relationships. These same barriers are present between us and our LORD. First unlock your relationship with HIM and it will help you unlock your relationship with others.
Have a safe and blessed Memorial weekend as we consider the freedom we enjoy, cost many their lives. And as believers, the freedom we have from sin and death, cost CHRIST HIS life. HE paid a debt it was impossible for us to pay. HE paid it freely because HE loves us enough to die for us so that we can be set free from the shackles of sin and death. Our part is to accept what HE has done for us.

Be Trustworthy - 1 Samuel Chapters 18 and 20 - May 18, 2008

Sunday School Lesson – Be Trustworthy – May 18, 2008

This is lesson three (3) in our series of study.

Our scripture is 1 Samuel 18:1-4; 19:4-7; 20:10-13, 16-17.

Trust is vital to all relationships such as marriage, business, friends, fellow church members, GOD, parents, doctors, pastors, teachers, persons with authority and the list goes on and on.

Trust is vital when we drive a car, cross a bridge, enter a building, fly in a plane, ride on a train, ride in a boat or ship, eat food, drink water or any beverage, take medicine, and this list goes on and on. Did anyone responsible make a compromise and cut a corner which puts you or loved ones in danger?

Once trust is compromised or lost it is very difficult to rebuild. But once something or someone has proven to be trustworthy, it brings delight to us. Even an inanimate object such as an automobile that has faithfully served us, is always thought of with great joy but a lemon is thought of with disgust.

Our scripture this week deals with two (2) friends making a covenant with each other. A covenant is only as good as the individuals willing to honor the agreement.

I remember the time when a person’s word was his or her bond. All you needed was a handshake to seal a deal but not today. It all goes back to integrity and trust.
Intertwined with our scripture is jealousy which is another attribute of human nature. King Saul was jealous of David’s success and feared that David would try to be king. But David maintained his loyalty, trustworthiness and respect for King Saul.

Let’s read 1 Samuel 18:1-4: (Commitment)

1 When David had finished speaking with Saul, Jonathan committed himself to David, and loved him as much as he loved himself.[1] 1 Sm 20:17; 2 Sm 1:26 2 Saul kept David with him from that day on and did not let him return to his father’s house. 3 Jonathan made a covenant with David[2] 1 Sm 20:8,16; 23:18 because he loved him as much as himself. 4 Then Jonathan removed the robe he was wearing and gave it to David,[3] Gn 41:42 along with his military tunic, his sword, his bow, and his belt.

Last week we studied about King David. This week we will study David when he was a young lad. David had killed Goliath and he found favor with King Saul. When David
finished a conversation with King Saul, Jonathan, King Saul’s son, bonded with David as a friend. The words used are “loved him as much as he loved himself” could cause us to think of a homosexual attraction. But the word used for love in this scripture expressed a deep, personal commitment of self to a relationship with pure and noble intentions of trust and obedience. The Hebrew word used for love in this scripture has no sexual connotation.

These two (2) men bonded in a special friendship with each other that lasted a life time.

King Saul kept David and did not let him return home. A king had the power to conscript a citizen for the good of the nation. Jonathan made a covenant with David. To seal the covenant Jonathan gave David his robe, his military tunic, his sword and his belt.

Let’s read 1 Samuel 19:4-7: (Loyalty)

4 Jonathan spoke well of David to his father Saul. He said to him: “The king should not sin against his servant David. He hasn’t sinned against you; in fact, his actions have been a great advantage to you. 5 He took his life in his hands when he struck down the Philistine,[4] 1 Sm 17:42–51 and the Lord brought about a great victory for all Israel. You saw it and rejoiced, so why would you sin against innocent blood by killing David for no reason?”[5] 1 Sm 20:32; Dt 19:10–13 6 Saul listened to Jonathan’s advice and swore an oath: “As surely as the Lord lives, David will not be killed.” 7 So Jonathan summoned David and told him all these words. Then Jonathan brought David to Saul, and he served him as [he did]* The bracketed text has been added for clarity. before.

First some background:
GOD was with David and gave him military success after military success over the
Philistines. The Israelites had a song they sang when David and his men returned from battle: “Saul has slain his thousands and David his tens of thousands.”
This did not set well with King Saul and he became very jealous of David and wanted to have him killed. Jealousy blinds us to seeing the good that a person does and blinds us to the fact that GOD is working in his or her life. Saul would send David on assignments where he hoped he would fail but GOD was with David and David always came back the victor.

King Saul offered his older daughter, Merab (MEE rab), to David in marriage if he would serve him more bravely and fight the battles for the LORD. Saul’s motive was to place him in battles so the Philistines would kill him. GOD gave David success but Saul reneged on Merab marrying David. Saul gave her in marriage to someone else. Then Saul learned that his younger daughter, Michal (MY kul), was in love with David so he offered her to David. David married Michal thus becoming the son-in-law of King Saul. Saul was pleased and then afraid. David was now in the family and GOD was with David, so his prospects for being king were much better.

King Saul told Jonathan and all his attendants to kill David. Jonathan was loyal to David and warned him of his father’s request to kill him.

Jonathan had to make a decision between being loyal to his dad and being loyal to David. Jonathan realized that David’s heart was pure toward his dad and that GOD was with David. So Jonathan told David to hide while he tried to talk some sense into his father.

Here is where our scripture picks up.

Jonathan spoke well of David to his father. Jonathan reminded his father what David had done for Israel and that David had been loyal to the king. David was popular with the people but had never tried to use his popularity to put the king down. Jonathan took the risk of making his father very angry with him but Jonathan was a loyal friend of David.

This is a critical point. Jonathan had the ear of the king. It would have been easy for Jonathan to agree with the king and put David in more jeopardy. This is a message to us. When we do not like someone or are jealous of someone, if others speak against him or her we have a choice to join in, defend him or her or remain silent. The power to help David or hurt him was in Jonathan’s hands. He chose to help David because he was his friend with the risk of making his father angry.

Are we loyal friends? If we have two (2) good friends, who in turn are not necessarily good friends with each other and one friend makes some unkind remarks about the other, what do we do? We do not want to cause a problem with the friend we are speaking with but the remarks are unjustified. Do we speak up to defend the other friend or do we remain silent for fear of offending the friend who is doing the talking or join in?

Jonathan pointed out the positive things David had done and changed his father’s mind. King Saul said David should live.

Jonathan got word to David that all was well with the king. David had to trust Jonathan that he was telling him the truth because it could have been a trap to lure David out of hiding to be killed. David trusted his friend and was reunited with the king and Jonathan.

Let’s read 1 Samuel 20:10-13: (Honesty)

10 So David asked Jonathan, “Who will tell me if your father answers you harshly?” 11 He answered David, “Come on, let’s go out to the field.” So both of them went out to the field. 12 “By the Lord, the God of Israel, if I sound out my father by this time tomorrow or the next day and I find out that he is favorable toward you, and if I do not send for you and tell you,[4] Lit and uncover your ear 13 then may God punish Jonathan and do so severely. If my father intends to bring evil on you, then I will tell you,[5] Lit will uncover your ears and I will send you away, and you will go in peace. May the Lord be with you, just as He was with my father.

The conversation between Jonathan and Saul was short lived. Soon King Saul was out to get David. Jonathan again intervened with a plan. (Read 1 Samuel Chapters 19 and 20.)

More background:
King Saul is no dummy. He realized that Jonathan was looking out for his friend David so he did not tell him of his plan to kill David. Saul sent his men to David’s house to watch it and to kill David in the morning. David’s wife, Michal, learned of the plot and told David. She let him down through a window and David escaped. Michal put an idol in their bed and some goat hair on the idol. The men asked for David but Michal told them he was ill. The men reported this to the king. He told the men to bring David in his bed to him so he could kill him. The men went to get David in his bed and discovered the idol with the goat hair. Saul was mad at Michal but she, in essence, said David spared her life in order to escape. David escaped to find refuge with Samuel the prophet in Naioth (NAY oth) at Ramah (RAY mah). Saul sent men to kill him but they started prophesying. Saul sent more men but they also prophesied. Saul went and he prophesied. This was GOD’S way of protecting David. David returned to meet with Jonathan. David told Jonathan that his father was going to kill him. Jonathan cannot believe it because his father told him everything and he had not heard of such a thing. So David devised a plan to reveal truth to Jonathan and himself.

Now back to our scripture:
Jonathan found it hard to believe that his father was out to kill David because his father had not shared this plan with him. So Jonathan agreed to go along with David’s plan and to tell him whether or not his father was angry with him. This would allow David to know what to do.

This was David’s plan: A special New Moon festival was coming up and David was expected to have dinner with the king. The feast would be a two (2) night event. If the king missed David, Jonathan agreed to tell his father that David was asked to join his family in Bethlehem to celebrate. If the king said okay or did not seem to care then that was a good sign the king was not planning to kill David. However, if the king became angry, then that was a sign that he was planning to harm David.

Jonathan said he would communicate the reaction of his father to David. Jonathan and David made a covenant which went beyond their personal commitment to each other but this covenant included their families.

Jonathan told David toward evening he would communicate the disposition of Saul toward him by pretending to do some archery practice. They would meet in the field where David had hid earlier. Jonathan would use the stone of Ezel (EE zel) as a target and shoot three (3) arrows into the air. He would bring a small lad with him to retrieve the arrows. If the king seemed calm toward David, Jonathan would shoot the arrows and then tell the boy, “Look, the arrows are on this side of you; bring them here”. Then David would know he was safe. However, if he told the boy, “Look, the arrows are beyond you” then he must go because his father was angry with him. This again is trust between two (2) friends. Jonathan was heir apparent to the throne and had every reason for David to be killed. But Jonathan remained loyal and trustworthy to David.

Saul missed David at the dinner and asked Jonathan where he was. Jonathan encountered the rage of his father and knew without a doubt that he wanted David dead. Jonathan was trustworthy and let David know that his father intended to kill him. Jonathan shot the arrows and shouted to the boy “Hurry! Go quickly! Don’t stop!

The boy left the area and Jonathan and David met to say good bye and both wept.

Let’s read 1 Samuel 20:16-17: (Consistency)
16 Then Jonathan made a covenant with the house of David,[7] 1 Sm 18:3; 23:18 saying, “May the Lord hold David’s enemies accountable.”[8] Lit Lord require it from the hand of David‘s enemies 17 Jonathan once again swore to David in his love for him, because he loved him as he loved himself.[9] 1 Sm 18:1

[In the commentary on the last scripture I went beyond this scripture. So I underlined the point in the commentary where this scripture fits.]

Jonathan and David agreed to a broader covenant which included their families. During these times when a new king took over the throne from a previous king, the family, relatives and loyal subjects were subject to being either killed or exiled. This new covenant was to ensure that whoever was king they would care for the other’s family.

Jonathan expressed his loyalty and love for David.

The end result to me is very sad. Jonathan died in battle as did his father. But because of Saul’s ruthless pursuit of David, Jonathan was a victim.

Jealousy can send us into a rage and result in us not thinking rationally. It can compromise our trustworthiness.

As Christians are we loyal and trustworthy?

Communicate - Deuteronomy 6, Proverbs 4, 2 Samuel 14 - May 11, 2008

Sunday School Lesson – Communicate – May 11, 2008

This is lesson two (2) in our series of study on “Unlocking Your Best Relationships.”

Our scripture is Deuteronomy 6:4-9, Proverbs 4:3-6, 2 Samuel 14:23-24, 28-33.

Communication is vital in all relationships. Some of our young people of today are losing the art of verbal communication because of texting.

Communication is a two (2) way street. For healthy relationships the people involved must communicate with each other. The communications can be written, verbal, touching, listening, responding, good body language, etc. However, there can be barriers to communication such as not reading, not listening, listening with no intent of responding, ignoring what is communicated, inattention, mind already made up, consider that the person communicating doesn’t know anything, doing all the talking to name a few.

Communicating the secret desires in our hearts and minds and pet peeves before they become a problem is good, especially in marriage. All marriages, as well as relationships, need to have an open line of communications. Share things before they swell up and become explosive. But be careful not to nitpick.

This is true when building and maintaining healthy relationships with people or GOD. We need to communicate with GOD, friends, loved ones, bosses, fellow workers, etc. Communication can be just talking, writing, effective listening, showing support, helping, revealing issues festering in our hearts and minds, can be praise, compliments, appreciation, encouragement and the list goes on and on. Effective communication means being consistent. Do not say one thing and do another. If we change our minds, we need to tell the other person or persons that we have changed our minds.

Communicating with GOD through CHRIST is important. I encourage people to reveal to GOD any pet peeves they have with GOD. Lay them out in the open and ask HIM to help you understand issues you have. HE may reveal an explanation or it may be that you need to grow and mature spiritually before you can understand a matter. HE may reveal that HE is teaching you a valuable lesson or HE that we got ourselves in the quagmire because of our own doings, notions, etc.

Often, I have made assumptions about GOD that led me to believe HE would respond in a certain way. However, when HE didn’t, I felt that GOD had let me down and I became disappointed in GOD. It is important to communicate with GOD through HIS Word, prayer, listening, waiting and watching. It may take awhile or HIS answer may come quickly but for sure it will come.

Keep in mind that all believers have direct access to GOD through CHRIST. As HIS children, through the miracle of rebirth, we can go in the very throne room of GOD and climb into HIS lap and call HIM “Daddy.”

Vital to good communication is effective listening. I love the word “listen” used in our
first scripture. The Hebrew word is “shema” or “sh’ma.” It carries the idea of effective listening in an intelligent, attentive manner with the intent of being obedient or doing what one can if action is needed.

Communication also involves looking for the non-verbal’s or body language. Most of us can send a loud message through our body language. Body language speaks volumes. Look for body language when you are either listening or speaking.
Our scriptures, today, will address two (2) positive illustrations of effective communication and one (1) example of poor communication.

Let’s read Deuteronomy 6:4-9:
4 “Listen, Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is One.[1] Or Yahweh is our God; Yahweh is One, or The Lord is our God, the Lord alone, or The Lord our God is one Lord [2] Mk 12:29,32; Jms 2:19 5 Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.[3] Mt 22:37; Mk 12:30; Lk 10:27 6 These words that I am giving you today are to be in your heart. 7 Repeat them to your children. Talk about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 8 Bind them as a sign on your hand and let them be a symbol[4] Or phylactery; Mt 23:5 on your forehead.[5] Lit symbol between your eyes [6] Dt 11:18; Ex 13:16 9 Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.[7] Dt 11:18–20

As stated earlier “listen” means to listen with the intent of applying, being obedient, acting upon or internalizing the information. It is effective listening.

Moses is communicating to the Israelites what GOD has commanded him to say to them. In essence Moses is saying, people I want you to listen and listen well. I want you to fully understand and comprehend what I am about to tell you. It is a matter that is for your on good and the good of your children and your children’s children to come. Listen as if your lives depended upon what I am about to tell you, because it is vital to you and your families.

JESUS quoted verse 5 when HE was asked, what was the greatest commandment? Then HE gave us the second most important commandment, “to love our neighbor as ourselves.”

Verse 5 gives the trinity of man/woman – heart, soul and strength. First, we are to love GOD with all of our heart. The heart is considered the very core of our being. It is the most secret place that only you and GOD know about. It is the eyes of our heart. It is the center of our being as humans where we make decisions. This is the place the HOLY SPIRIT speaks to us and where we decide to follow GOD or the flesh or something else. It is the place that GOD reveals truth to us. It is the seat of comprehension and understanding.

Second, there is the soul. The soul is our psyche. When we try to play religion the soul can help us play and act very religious. But our heart knows we are a fraud. When the heart is right before GOD the soul knows it. Then the soul is caught between the will of the spirit and the will of the flesh. GOD wants the spirit to rule the believer’s life but the flesh wants to rule because after all it is reality. How can the flesh allow the unseen to rule the seen.

Third, there is the physical. Some try to earn their way to heaven or to be accepted by GOD. The physical is the flesh. The soul can bring the flesh under some control but it takes the heart or the re-born spirit to really control the flesh. The Apostle Paul says we must die to the flesh and let the spirit rule our lives.

So GOD instructed Moses to tell the people to keep in mind, every moment of the day, the importance of loving GOD with all their heart, soul/mind and strength. And teach their children to do the same.

Before CHRIST, the Israelites had to physically have this scripture before them every moment as a reminder. After CHRIST, all believers have this scripture written in their hearts by the indwelling HOLY SPIRIT. Men and women decide moment by moment who will control their lives - their born again spirit or their flesh. Know that the victory is when we allow the spirit to rule.

GOD wants HIS people to instruct their families then and now. HE wants all believers to allow the spirit to control their lives and teach their families through scripture and example. Just as CHRIST is the head of the church the husband/father is to be the spiritual leader his home. But most often it is the women who are the examples and teachers of spiritual matters to their children. This is great and GOD honors women presenting the good news to their families. Men, if you have not already done so, be a man and be the spiritual leader of your home. Some men may say, “I don’t do religion.” Well neither do I. Religion is manmade. CHRIST in you makes you a Christian and not attending church. But once a believer you need to find a church, where GOD’S Word is taught and become a part of it. There is no perfect church but ask GOD to show you the church you need to attend and grow spiritually.

Let’s read Proverbs 4:3-6:
3 When I was a son with my father, tender and precious to my mother, 4 he taught me and said: “Your heart must hold on to my words. Keep my commands and live.[1] Pr 3:1–2; 6:20–23; 7:1–2 5 Get wisdom, get understanding;[2] Pr 16:16 don’t forget or turn away from the words of my mouth. 6 Don’t abandon wisdom, and she will watch over you; love her, and she will guard you.

The writer of Proverbs is King Solomon. He was the second son of King David and
Bathsheba. This Proverb seems to be a testimony of King Solomon telling what he learned from his father, King David. We know from scripture that GOD told Solomon that HE would give him whatever he asked for – riches, long life or death of his enemies – but Solomon asked for wisdom. This pleased GOD. Did Solomon learn the importance of wisdom from his father?

Solomon verbalizes the importance of investing in your children when they are young. Both the father and the mother have vital roles in training children when they are young. Proverbs 22:6 is clear about training children:
6 Teach a youth (or a child) about the way he/she should go; even when he/she is old he/she will not depart from it.

It is important to note the words, “When he or she is old.” Many parents have had to hang onto this promise because of wayward children.

In essence Solomon is saying parents train your children when they are in their formative years. It is important that we as parents practice what we preach. Not only teach our children but also practice what we teach. Consistency is critical to training children.

Solomon talks about wisdom as if she was his wife or a wise woman. Be obedient to wisdom and love wisdom and you will benefit greatly from that attitude. Teach the valuable things you have learned from your parents along with the things you have learned through practical experience. The concept is that each succeeding generation will be better off than the preceding generation because they have not followed their own whims or notions but followed wisdom.

A pastor many years ago defined wisdom as “Knowledge applied according to GOD’S plan.”

The Book of James instructs in James 1:5:
5 Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him. 6 But let him ask in faith without doubting. For the doubter is like the surging sea, driven and tossed by the wind.
Let’s read 2 Samuel 14: 23-24, 28-33:
23 So Joab got up, went to Geshur, and brought Absalom to Jerusalem. 24 However, the king added, “He may return to his house, but he may not see my face.” So Absalom returned to his house, but he did not see the king.[6] Lit king‘s face
28 Absalom resided in Jerusalem two years but never saw the king. 29 Then Absalom sent for Joab in order to send him to the king, but Joab was unwilling to come. So he sent again, a second time, but he still wouldn’t come. 30 Then Absalom said to his servants, “See, Joab has a field right next to mine, and he has barley there. Go and set fire to it!” So Absalom’s servants set the field on fire.[8] DSS, LXX add So Joab‘s servants came to him with their clothes torn and said, “Absalom‘s servants have set the field on fire!” [9] Jdg 15:3–5 31 Then Joab came to Absalom’s house and demanded, “Why did your servants set my field on fire?” 32 “Look,” Absalom explained to Joab, “I sent for you and said, ‘Come here. I want to send you to the king to ask: Why have I come back from Geshur? I’d be better off if I were still there.’ So now, let me see the king. If I am guilty, let him kill me.” 33 Joab went to the king and told him. So David summoned Absalom, who came to the king and bowed down with his face to the ground before the king. Then the king kissed Absalom.

Our first two (2) scripture references deal with good communication; the importance of communicating with GOD and the importance of communicating with our children. This scripture is an example of poor communications or the failure to communicate. This happened with King David, a man after GOD’S own heart and his son who he loved dearly.

Some brief background. King David committed adultery with Bathsheba and she became pregnant. King David asked that her husband be summoned from the battle field in hopes he would sleep with his wife, Bathsheba. But Uriah remained faithful and did not sleep with his wife and returned to the battle field carrying his own death sentence. Uriah was placed on the front lines and was killed. King David took Bathsheba as his wife but the child they conceived during their affair died. King David repented of his sins and GOD forgave him but the sword never left his house. David’s daughter, Tamar, was raped by her half brother, Amnon. Absalom, Tamar’s full brother, became angry when he heard what happened to Tamar and vowed to kill Amnon. Absalom prepared a party for all the sons of King David and used that opportunity to have Amnon killed. Then Absalom fled to Geshur (GHEE shuhr). He lived in Geshur for three (3) years without any communication from his dad. His dad grieved for his son. King David’s military leader, Joab, devised a plan to urge King David to reach out to Absalom. It worked and Joab went to Geshur and brought Absalom back to Jerusalem. Although King David sent for Absalom, he told Joab that Absalom could not see him.

Our scripture shows the results of poor or no communication. Ignoring a problem does not make it go away. If King David had acted sooner and tried to maintain the relationship with Absalom the outcome may have been different. We can only speculate and learn from the mistakes of others.

As we read the scripture we see there was finally a meeting between King David and Absalom. It seems they were finally reconciled. But you need to read the rest of the story to see that their reconciliation was brief and the end result was more violence and bloodshed. True reconciliation should have been the beginning of restoring their relationship and fellowship. We cannot have a flash in the pan and think that all will live happily from now on.

Maintain effective communications. Seek wisdom from GOD.

Appreciate - Philippians 2 and 4 - May 4, 2008

Sunday School Lesson – Appreciate – May 4, 2008

This begins another series of study entitled “Unlocking Your Best Relationships.”

May 4 – Appreciate – Philippians 2 and 4 – Show Appreciation toward others.

May 11- Communications – Deuteronomy 6, 2 Samuel 14 and Proverbs 4 – Communications are necessary for healthy relationships.

May 18 – Be Trustworthy – 1 Samuel 18, 19 and 20 – Building trust.

May 27 – Be ready to forgive – Ephesians 4 and Philemon 8 – Why forgive?

Last week’s lesson was on humility but it also dealt with mending the broken relationship between twin brothers, Esau and Jacob. The four (4) subjects we will study this month play important roles in building and maintaining relationships.

A relationship is a two (2) way street. A relationship involves two (2) people being involved in building and maintaining the relationship. A relationship can be broken by one person NOT showing appreciation, NOT communicating, NOT being trustworthy and NOT forgiving. Broken relationships are hard to rebuild but communications and forgiveness are important ingredients toward rebuilding trust and appreciation. Marriage is a relationship and once we say “I DO” is the beginning of the building process toward a true, genuine relationship. It often takes some of us much of our married lives before we fully appreciate the mates GOD has given us.

Many marriages today do not try to work through difficult issues. But it is the difficult issues and getting through them that builds stronger relationships. However, abusive and addictive situations must be dealt with great care and professionally.
The flip side of being appreciated, often, is being ignored, abused or taken for granted. Either situation will damage a relationship.

As believers build, grow and mature in their relationship with CHRIST, they can build, maintain and rebuild relationships with others.

Philippians was written by the Apostle Paul to the church that he and his companions began during his second mission trip to Philippi. Philippi was the first church established on the European continent. Paul was likely under house arrest in Rome when he wrote this letter. The church had sent a gift of money to him by one of its members, Epaphroditus (ih PAF roh DIGH thus). Philippians was a letter thanking the church for the gift, encouraging them in their faith and letting them know how faithful Timothy and Epaphroditus had been. Epaphroditus was an elder in the church.

This week’s scripture gives insight into the heart of Paul. Paul appreciates those who minister with him in Rome, Timothy and Epaphroditus.

Let’s read Philippians 2:19-22:

19 Now I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon so that I also may be encouraged when I hear news about you. 20 For I have no one else like-minded who will genuinely care about your interests; 21 all seek their own interests, not those of Jesus Christ. 22 But you know his proven character, because he has served with me in the gospel ministry like a son with a father. 23 Therefore, I hope to send him as soon as I see how things go with me. 24 And I am convinced in the Lord that I myself will also come quickly.

Timothy was with Paul in Rome. Paul valued their relationship and expressed appreciation for Timothy: like-minded – genuinely care about your interests – proven character – like a son. The Apostle Paul was under house arrest awaiting a court decision either for a trial date or a verdict. Paul’s hope was in the LORD and he was willing to accept whatever verdict was handed down to him. Either way he planned for Timothy to return to the church in Philippi with the news of his situation.
Being appreciated by our friends, loved ones, peers and especially those who we hold in high esteem is a huge confidence builder and ego booster. So just imagine when the Apostle Paul expressed his appreciation both verbally as he shared the letter with Timothy and in the letter. This had to be an encouragement to both Timothy and Epaphroditus when they heard the nice things Paul had to say about them.
Paul looked upon Timothy as his son and he had taught him in the faith. Paul was pleased with Timothy and stated that they were like-minded. Timothy had a heart for the ministry in general and in Philippi. Timothy genuinely cared about spreading the gospel and fellow Christians. Paul expressed the complete confidence he had in Timothy when he wrote the letter to the church in Philippi.

This should encourage us to express our appreciation to our children, grandchildren, loved ones, friends, former teachers, bosses, mentors, pastors and the list goes on and on, when they do things that are pleasing to us. Most of us are quick to criticize often but slow to commend.

Let’s read Philippians 2:25-30:

25 But I considered it necessary to send you Epaphroditus—my brother, co-worker, and fellow soldier, as well as your messenger and minister to my need— 26 since he has been longing for all of you and was distressed because you heard that he was sick. 27 Indeed, he was so sick that he nearly died. However, God had mercy on him, and not only on him but also on me, so that I would not have one grief on top of another. 28 For this reason, I am very eager to send him so that you may rejoice when you see him again and I may be less anxious. 29 Therefore, welcome him in the Lord with all joy and hold men like him in honor, 30 because he came close to death for the work of Christ, risking his life to make up what was lacking in your ministry to me.

Paul expressed great appreciation for Epaphroditus – My brother – co-worker –fellow soldier – messenger – minister – welcome him as a man of honor – a warrior.

Paul looked upon Epaphroditus as a “Gambler.” This was a term used, in that period, to identify people willing to expose themselves to life threatening illnesses to minister to those who were too ill to care for themselves. Epaphroditus earned that distinction and worthy of being recognized for that attribute in his life.

Epaphroditus may have gotten home sick and needed to return to Philippi. But he nearly died while he was visiting Paul. Wanting to go home after we have been sick is very normal after we have experienced a life threatening situation. Epaphroditus was distressed that the church had heard about how sick he was.

Paul was relieved that GOD spared him because Paul did not need to deal with another problem. Paul made it clear to the Philippians that they are to welcome Epaphroditus home as a victorious warrior because he laid his life on the line to serve the LORD.

Let’s read Philippians 4:15-18:

15 And you, Philippians, know that in the early days of the gospel, when I left Macedonia, no church shared with me in the matter of giving and receiving except you alone. 16 For even in Thessalonica you sent [gifts]* The bracketed text has been added for clarity. for my need several times. 17 Not that I seek the gift, but I seek the fruit that is increasing to your account. 18 But I have received everything in full, and I have an abundance. I am fully supplied, having received from Epaphroditus what you provided—a fragrant offering, a welcome sacrifice, pleasing to God.

Paul praised them for their gift of support money. This money could be used to meet his needs for his care or legal expenses. Paul saw their hearts through their generosity and concern for him. He saw their action as a response to the prompting of GOD. This was a huge encouragement to Paul because the members of the church in Philippi had not lost faith in CHRIST because Paul was facing an uncertain future. Paul saw that GOD was working in the hearts of the Philippians to care for him.

When Epaphroditus arrived with the gift it was like a breath of fresh air. Their gift supplied his needs in abundance and it not only pleased him, it also pleased GOD.
Paul was grateful that someone cared about him and his circumstances. Here we have a caring body of believers and an appreciative recipient. Paul sent the church a letter of appreciation. This was to let them know how much he appreciated the fact they had not forgotten him and encouraged them to continue to share with others. Sharing and caring benefits both them and those in need. Most of all it shows that their hearts are right before GOD as they serve HIM as HE leads them.

People who have experienced various circumstances life has to offer, such as incarceration, loss of a loved one, financial problems, certain temptations, addictions, wealth, success, fame, popularity and the list goes on and on, are better able to understand and empathize with those who are going through the same or similar circumstances. Paul was under house arrest in Rome. Earlier Paul and Silas had an experience in jail at Philippi. The jailer and his entire family became Christians as a result of Paul and Silas being faithful witnesses. This is recorded in Acts 16:25-34:

A Midnight Deliverance (Paul and Silas are in jail in Philippi.)

25 About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them. 26 Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the jail were shaken, and immediately all the doors were opened, and everyone’s chains came loose. 27 When the jailer woke up and saw the doors of the prison open, he drew his sword and was going to kill himself, since he thought the prisoners had escaped. 28 But Paul called out in a loud voice, “Don’t harm yourself, because all of us are here!” 29 Then the jailer[6] Lit Then he called for lights, rushed in, and fell down trembling before Paul and Silas. 30 Then he escorted them out and said, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?” 31 So they said, “Believe on the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved—you and your household.” 32 Then they spoke the message of the Lord to him along with everyone in his house. 33 He took them the same hour of the night and washed their wounds. Right away he and all his family were baptized. 34 He brought them up into his house, set a meal before them, and rejoiced because he had believed God with his entire household.

The Philippian jailer and his family were members of the church in Philippi. Was the jailer instrumental in urging his fellow church members to send a gift of money to Paul in the Prison/house arrest in Rome because he knew what being under house arrest/prison life was all about? Paul mentions other times when the church had responded to meet his needs. Again was the jailer instrumental in leading the church to support Paul because he was so appreciative for Paul and Silas sharing the Good News with him and his family? We do not know but it gives us something to consider.
The body of believers gathers together in the meeting house, we call church, to worship and serve GOD as HE directs. The LORD has a plan for the true church made up of living stones. When new members join a body of believers, the first thing leadership, which is headed by CHRIST and then the pastor, staff, deacons, etc., should ask, “Why is GOD sending this new member or these new members to us?” GOD has a plan for them in the body. This is what body life is all about. Leadership must pray and ask GOD to reveal to them where and how these folks should be used. They may need to be nurtured first. Then make sure they are placed with someone who is a nurturer. But don’t leave them to be nurtured for the rest of their lives. But as they grow and mature spiritually, ask GOD to reveal how they are to serve in the living body. What is GOD revealing or confirming to the body through those becoming a part of the body?

Ask the LORD to reveal to you someone you need to express a word of appreciation.