Bible Study - Extraordinary - Giving Others What They Really Need - Proverbs 11-17-18-27-29 - May 26, 2013
Bible Study – Extraordinary – Giving Others What
They Really Need – May 26, 2013
This is our final lesson in our series entitled
“Extraordinary Relationships.”
Our scripture is Proverbs 11:12-14; 17:17; 18:24;
27:5-6, 9-10, 17; 28:23; 29:10.
Friendship is a true treasure. Being a true friend and
having a true friend is a wonderful bonding experience. Our lesson covers three
attributes in a true friendship - honesty, loyalty and support.
Our study on “Extraordinary Relationships” began
with the most important relationship and that is our relationship with GOD
through CHRIST. Many people reject CHRIST as the way to GOD. Yet, it is the
love of GOD and the love of CHRIST that resulted in CHRIST giving HIS life for
the sins of all who place their faith in HIM. JESUS stated in John 14:6:
6 Jesus told him, “I am the way, the truth, and
the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
CHRIST is the only person who has been resurrected
from the dead which is GOD’S proof to all that HE paid the sin debt in full and
conquered death. Those who place their faith in CHRIST receive eternal life
through the miracle of rebirth. Eternal life is a free gift all but each person
has to accept it by faith. If you have not taken that step of faith, I urge you
to do so now. Ask CHRIST to forgive you for your sins and to come into your
life now. The miracle of rebirth, through CHRIST, makes you a child of GOD. Once
you become a child of GOD, you will always be HIS child for eternity. Just as
when you were born physically, you can never change who your parents are. That
is, once a child of GOD always a child of GOD.
God’s desire is for HIS children to build and
maintain an active relationship with HIM. The miracle of rebirth begins this
process and depending upon our willingness to pursue that relationship, it can result
in a bond and relationship that will grow into being best friends. Christians
must study the Bible and put into action what GOD reveals though the indwelling
Holy Spirit. Study and prayer is not just to get to know about GOD and CHRIST
but to get to know them through obedient service. As we obediently serve GOD
through the leadership of the indwelling Holy Spirit, our relationship with GOD
through CHRIST will grow and mature. It is an awesome journey but it is up to each
Christian. Our relationship is personal and individual. GOD never takes away
our right to choose. HIS desire is to be our trusted best friend through
relationship.
As we study this last lesson, relate it to GOD being
our trusted friend. Recognize and understand that a true friend tells you the
truth and has your best interest in mind. Often, we get the notion that GOD is
against us when bad things come our way but we must realize HE has our best
interest in HIS mind for us. GOD’S love for us compels HIM to reprimand us when
it is for our good, which leads us into our first passage.
Let’s explore.
Let’s read Proverbs 27:5-6; 28:23; 29:10 (Honesty)
These three passages, although in different areas of
Proverbs, deal with honesty. Being honest with a person is sometimes hard to do
- depending upon the circumstances. If a friend is headed for a cliff and will
fall over unless we warn him or her, we move with great haste and do all we can
to warn him/her to prevent it. If he/she refuses to heed our warning, then
he/she will suffer the consequences.
These passage selections focus upon the need for uncompromised
honesty with a person.
Proverbs 27:5-6:
5 Better an open reprimand than concealed love.
6 The wounds of a friend are trustworthy, but the kisses of an enemy
are excessive.
To me, in verse 5, the open reprimand is given the
instant you are made aware of the situation. You respond out of love and
concern for the person who is about to get into a bad situation. Based upon
your experience or vantage point, you know he/she is headed for serious
trouble. Yes, such a reprimand hurts and may result in a damaged relationship
but a friend knows he/she must do the right thing by giving wise counsel even
when it may be unpleasant. An enemy may flatter you with kisses, kind words or
remain silent knowing that you are headed for a bad situation. An enemy gloats
about your potential hurt.
Proverbs 28:23:
23 One who rebukes a person
will later find more favor than one who flatters
with his tongue.
Verse 23 reflects the person who is honest and tells
you that what you are doing will be harmful or hurt you. You think they are
meddling in your life but they do it out of love for you. One day you may
recognize and acknowledge that the person gave you wise counsel. Some friends
are afraid they will loose your friendship if they are honest with you. So they
do not tell you the truth. A good friend risks the relationship to be honest
with you.
Proverbs 29:10:
10 Bloodthirsty men hate
an honest person, but the upright care about him.
Verse 10 uses the word “bloodthirsty.” A person can
be bloodthirsty in more ways than killing another person. You can kill another
person’s reputation through gossip. You can remain silent when you know a
person is making the wrong decision but you think he/she deserves whatever
happens to him/her. Being jealous of a person who is popular, great looks,
charismatic, talented and the list goes on can result in the jealous person not
offering wise counsel to that person. A person who is honest and has integrity
will offer wise counsel regardless of the potential reaction of the person
being given the counsel. Some people delight in the failure of others and
salivate when they see the potential.
Let’s read Proverbs 17:17; 18:24; 27:10 (Loyalty)
The overarching message in these passages is
loyalty.
Proverbs 17:17:
17 A friend loves at all times, and a
brother is born for a difficult time.
A good friend is a priceless relationship and can
extend beyond blood relations as we see in verse 17. A friend loves at all
times, the good and bad times but a brother’s love is reserved for the
difficult times.
Proverbs 18:24:
24 A man with many friends
may be harmed, but there is a friend who stays closer
than a brother.
Verse 24 reveals that having many friends is no
guarantee of true friendship. It all depends upon the motives of those who
claim to be your friends. Rather than having many friends, a true friend is
better because such a relationship can be more binding than a blood
relationship or having fair weather friends. JESUS said in 15:12-13:
12 This is My command: Love one another as I
have loved you. 13 No one has greater love than this, that someone would
lay down his life for his friends.
JESUS gave HIS life just for you to accept HIM by
faith. HE gave HIS life before you accepted HIM.
The Apostle Paul stated in Romans 5:8-11:
8 But God provesn His own love for uso ; ; in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us!
9 Much more then, since we have now been declared righteous by His blood,p we will be saved through Him from wrath.q ;
10 For if, while we were enemies,r ; ; ; we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, then how much more, having been reconciled, will we be saved by His life!s ;
11 And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ. We have now received this reconciliation through Him.t
9 Much more then, since we have now been declared righteous by His blood,p we will be saved through Him from wrath.q ;
10 For if, while we were enemies,r ; ; ; we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, then how much more, having been reconciled, will we be saved by His life!s ;
11 And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ. We have now received this reconciliation through Him.t
Remember 2 Corinthians 5:21:
21 He (GOD) made the One (JESUS) who did not know sinn to be sino Or be a sin offering for us,p ; ; so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
21 He (GOD) made the One (JESUS) who did not know sinn to be sino Or be a sin offering for us,p ; ; so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.
GOD made the way to HIM through JESUS. Salvation
is free to all who will accept CHRIST because of the love both GOD and CHRIST
have for all people as is revealed in John 3:16-18:
16 “For God lovedh ; ; ; ; ; ; ,; ; the world •in this way:i The Gk word houtos, commonly translated in as “so” or “so much” occurs over 200 times in the NT. Almost without
exception it is an adverb of manner, not degree (for example, see ). It only means “so much” when modifying an adjective (see ; ). Manner seems primarily in view in , which explains the
HCSB‘s rendering. He gave His •One and Onlyj Son,k ; so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.l ; ; ;
17 For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemnm the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.
18 Anyone who believes in Him is not condemned, but anyone who does not believe is already condemned,n ; because he has not believed in the nameo ; of the One and Only Sonp of God.
17 For God did not send His Son into the world that He might condemnm the world, but that the world might be saved through Him.
18 Anyone who believes in Him is not condemned, but anyone who does not believe is already condemned,n ; because he has not believed in the nameo ; of the One and Only Sonp of God.
Proverbs 27:10:
10 Don’t abandon your friend
or your father’s friend, and don’t go
to your brother’s house in your time of calamity;
better a neighbor nearby than a brother far away.
Verse 10 encourages a person to build and maintain
good relationships with those near him/her. If your parent or parents have
built a relationship with someone who lives close to you, then maintain and build
upon that relationship because there may come a time when you may need all the
help you can get from them or you can be of help to them. You need to develop
true friendships among those who live close to you. If something bad happens
your closest help may be a neighbor, who is your friend. If you rely upon blood
relations, your kin may not be readily available in an immediate crisis. But
for an extended or long term crisis, blood relations usually come to our aid
even if far away from us.
Let’s read Proverbs 11:12-14; 27:9, 17 (Support)
Proverbs 11:12-14:
12 Whoever shows contempt
for his neighbor lacks sense, but a man with understanding
keeps silent. 13 A gossip goes around revealing a secret, but a
trustworthy person keeps a confidence. 14 Without guidance,
people fall, but with many counselors there is deliverance.
True friendship is a wonderful gift. We need to
build and maintain friendship with our neighbors. When a friend confides in us,
we are to honor their trust and not go tell it or use it to spread gossip. We
all need guidance in our lives and we need those we can trust to give us wise
counsel.
A wise person knows when to speak and when to keep
his/her mouth shut. When a person places his/her confidence in you, he/she
considers you trustworthy therefore do not use it as an opportunity to gossip.
Christians must be careful and not use prayer time for an opportunity to
gossip.
Verse 14 brings to mind the old saying, “Two heads
are better than one.” We all need wise counsel or guidance from time to time.
Seek it from several sources, when possible, then compare and choose the best
course of action based upon your circumstances.
Proverbs 27:9:
9 Oil and incense bring joy
to the heart, and the sweetness of a friend is better
than self-counsel.
Just as oil and incense are comforting and soothing
to a person, so is wise counsel from a trusted friend. We can take comfort in knowing
when we go to a trusted friend; he/she will give us counsel which will be in
our best interest. Again, GOD’S desire is for HIS children to consider HIM such
a trusted friend.
Proverbs 27:17:
17 Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens
another.
How do we sharpen an ax or lawn mower blade? We use
a metal file or a sharpener which is stronger than what we want to sharpen,
thus “Iron sharpens iron.” Truth from a true friend can be abrasive but it is
intended to benefit us. It may sting and hurt for awhile but when the
sharpening is over we will realize that we can cut through life’s circumstance
so much easier.
We develop and build good friends by being a good
friend. As a Christian we can build an intimate, loving relationship with
CHRIST. HIS desire is to be our best friend. HE gave HIS life upon the cross for
each person that places his/her faith in HIM and doing so will result in
eternal life.
We have studied passages from Proverbs called the
book of wisdom but our relationship with GOD through CHRIST is the beginning of
wisdom.
Be safe as we celebrate Memorial Day. Keep in mind
that our freedom in America comes with a price. A special thank you to all the
men and women who have served, are serving our country and those who have given
their lives. May we never become complacent or take our freedom for granted but
stand firm. Blessings!!!
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